I say today because like most things, dating is a one day at a time type of thing. Sometimes it’s fun and I enjoy it, but today, I’m reflecting on two men I liked who came on really strong in the beginning and then seemed to drop off the face of the earth when it came to me… like they are still active on social media and Tinder, but communications with me have ceased.
One guy mailed me a book two days after meeting me, called and texted me, flirted with me, expressed interest in seeing me, and then was gone.
The other guy texted me every day multiple times a day and said very nice things to me, not just about my outward appearances, but about my personality and me as a person and then, stopped texting me.
It fucking hurts and is hard. Like yes, I could be an “empowered, strong female” or whatever and reach out to them. With the first guy I did, I texted and called him twice, but I don’t want a guy I have to chase or that has seemingly no interest in me.
Guy #2 I don’t get. Maybe he is realizing what I already realized, which is this would be very hard as he is traveling a lot over the next 8 or so months so we would probably not see each other at all during that time so maybe he is done, which is sad and disappointing. This is sad because he came on so strong, seemed to really like me, and said nice things to me about me and him then disappearing makes me lose faith in all men and what they say to me. My sadness is less about him and I not working out or ever talking again. It’s more about my losing faith in men and not believing or trusting that they mean what they say to me. I don’t really know him that well but was enjoying getting to know him.
I have major trust issues, which maybe he sensed. Maybe I scared him away. Maybe he is trying to play hard to get. Maybe he is busy. Maybe he is no longer that into me (I don’t think it’s that in this case as he seemed really into me), but I am wracking my brain and I don’t know what it is. Maybe he is testing me to see if I’ll reach out to him and how long it will take me to do so. I really hope he is not doing that and if he is, I see how unfair and annoying it is when I do that to men- give them a test they don’t know they are taking.